Be "Specific"

Hey honey! How has your week gone so far? Whether things have fallen into place or backfired, at least you tried! Big props for trying!

If you watched my latest video, I start by talking about cake. Yes, cake. If you know anything about me, you should know that I am a fan of all things sugar! I know I'm not the only one. Hey sugar sis! Hey!

Now what was I talking about? Oh, that's right. Cake. Well kinda sorta. Sis, I want you to BE SPECIFIC. If you want me to bake you a cake, you have to tell me what kind- chocolate, lemon, strawberry, caramel, red velvet... Folks don't know what you want unless you are specific in your asking. At times, we assume people will know what we want if we give them general instruction. Like that time I asked a stylist to clip my ends and I came out with a bob. I was not pleased. Not. One. Bit. But whose fault was it? (Points to self.) I should have been more specific about what my definition of "clipping my ends" meant. I should have asked her to express her understanding before pickin' up those shears. Even though that was 18 years ago, I can still see my hair on the floor like it was yesterday. (Big sigh.)

Want time to yourself? You better! BE SPECIFIC about what you need. Here's a sample script: Don't call, text, or email me. I will NOT respond. Don't look for me because I don't want to be found. Don't check on me because I'm good as long as you let me be. And before you think it's an emergency, let me explain what MY definition of "emergency" is. Now scoot. (Make sure you say it with passion! Say it like you mean it - because you do.)

Whether you're asking someone to bake you a cake, cut your hair, or give you some quiet time- BE SPECIFIC. Don't leave things up to chance. If you aren't clear about what you want, chances are you ain't gone get it. I'm just saying.

Be Specific so you can Be Well,

Dr. B

P.S. I am not taking orders for cakes. It was just an example. But it's nice to know most of ya'll prefer red velvet!

Get ready, get ready, get ready ready!

You ever wish for something and have that wish granted? Sweet! Were you ready to receive it? That part...

When you pray for something, it may not come when you want it but it's always on time. Amen? Sometimes we get so caught up in making the wish list that we slack on preparing to receive the things we've asked for. If you want things to fall into place, you have to make room. It's like cleaning out your closet to make space for new items. Yes, you can keep it all, but should you? Nope. How are you going to have the physical and emotional space for new things, relationships, and opportunities if you don't let some of those old things go? It's not easy, but soooooo necessary. Make space. Be open. Be ready ready!

Be Well,

Dr. B

IT'S TIME TO BE WELL WITH DR. B!

Thanks for stopping by! This is my first blog! Heeeyyyy!

Allow me to introduce myself. I'm Medical Psychologist Baraka Perez, but you can call me Dr. B! My mission is to help you reach your full potential, but let's just focus on getting through today!

How are you, sis? Have you eaten? Have you been drinking water? Have you talked (not texted) with a friend in the last 72 hours? Have you even been breathing? I know, right? Already starting to feel overwhelmed and underachieved and it's not even noon? You are not alone. I feel you. Big time. Sounds like we need to take a little break to catch our breath. Whew, chile!

Be Well with Dr. B is all about making yourself THE FOCAL POINT. If you don't, who will? I'll wait... We do such a great job of taking care of others. I'll bet you've done at least ten things today for other people but zilch for yourself. Yep. That's not how it's supposed to go. Taking care of yourself is absolutely necessary. That is, if you want to stay afloat. "I want to drown," said no one ever.

No woman should struggle alone. You need support, motivation, and guidance. That's where I come in! I will help you take better care of yourself. For real. Stick around and you'll see! Be well, sis.

- Dr. B