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  • Writer's pictureDr. B

Be "Specific"

Hey honey! How has your week gone so far? Whether things have fallen into place or backfired, at least you tried! Big props for trying!

If you watched my latest video, I start by talking about cake. Yes, cake. If you know anything about me, you should know that I am a fan of all things sugar! I know I'm not the only one. Hey sugar sis! Hey!

Now what was I talking about? Oh, that's right. Cake. Well kinda sorta. Sis, I want you to BE SPECIFIC. If you want me to bake you a cake, you have to tell me what kind- chocolate, lemon, strawberry, caramel, red velvet... Folks don't know what you want unless you are specific in your asking. At times, we assume people will know what we want if we give them general instruction. Like that time I asked a stylist to clip my ends and I came out with a bob. I was not pleased. Not. One. Bit. But whose fault was it? (Points to self.) I should have been more specific about what my definition of "clipping my ends" meant. I should have asked her to express her understanding before pickin' up those shears. Even though that was 18 years ago, I can still see my hair on the floor like it was yesterday. (Big sigh.)

Want time to yourself? You better! BE SPECIFIC about what you need. Here's a sample script: Don't call, text, or email me. I will NOT respond. Don't look for me because I don't want to be found. Don't check on me because I'm good as long as you let me be. And before you think it's an emergency, let me explain what MY definition of "emergency" is. Now scoot. (Make sure you say it with passion! Say it like you mean it - because you do.)

Whether you're asking someone to bake you a cake, cut your hair, or give you some quiet time- BE SPECIFIC. Don't leave things up to chance. If you aren't clear about what you want, chances are you ain't gone get it. I'm just saying.

Be Specific so you can Be Well,

Dr. B

P.S. I am not taking orders for cakes. It was just an example. But it's nice to know most of ya'll prefer red velvet!



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